rationalizing against your better judgments
is like pretending to intuit your way out of your intuitions
i stay down, with my demons
yesterday i surveyed a few coworkers on social and life anxiety and one libertarian customer (probably in his mid 40s who i often jokingly make fun of) on existentialism. it was a funny set of moments and responses. one of my coworkers just laughed at me and was like “what are you talking about??” and i articulated situations where anxiety usually peaks and she said she never felt like that and that being pregnant was the only source of any anxiety. its insane how completely nonchalant and calm all these people are. as if the intensely fast firing of neurons and neurosis isnt actually a physical response and that this sense of anxiety is really just a cultivated thing that comes from thinking about it endlessly, both in a reverse david foster wallace way (“you will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do”) and in an “i accidentally read too much literature on being alive in the 21st century”
also the “busy” chat status on gmail is simply pedantic. there’s no other way of describing it (except maybe practically, but not really).
If owning a gun and knowing how to use it worked, the military would be the safest place for a woman. It’s not.
If women covering up their bodies worked, Afghanistan would have a lower rate of sexual assault than Polynesia. It doesn’t.
If not drinking alcohol worked, children would not be raped. They are.
If your advice to a woman to avoid rape is to be the most modestly dressed, soberest and first to go home, you may as well add “so the rapist will choose someone else”.
If your response to hearing a woman has been raped is “she didn’t have to go to that bar/nightclub/party” you are saying that you want bars, nightclubs and parties to have no women in them. Unless you want the women to show up, but wear kaftans and drink orange juice. Good luck selling either of those options to your friends.
Or you could just be honest and say that you don’t want less rape, you want (even) less prosecution of rapists.
what ive learned from online social justice warriors
we can never blame POCs for being patriarchal or violent or racist or dehumanizing or oppressive or committing any crime because they’re just socialized into it by class and culture and we have to respect that without critiquing them.
we must ALWAYS blame white people for being patriarchal and violent and racist and dehumanizing and oppressive and committing crimes because only they have the autonomy to make terrible choices and are always 100% responsible for whatever goes wrong, including the 65 iraqis killed in the sunni extremist attack in baghdad today.